If you are a cheater and you are
reading this, then imagine that every word of this entry is a spit in your eye
(no, it doesn’t matter which eye!). I consider cheating one of the worst flaws
of humanity and possibly one of the worst things you can do to another human
being – especially one you love. Of course things like murder, abuse and rape
are considerably more damaging both physically and psychologically but the
mentality of the assailant comes into question in those cases. When it comes to
cheating, it is simply hurtful. It is one of the most selfish acts a human can
do and whatever pathetic argument is popping into your cheating minds right
now, I am prepared for an answer.
“It does not mean anything. I
still love my partner”. Right, how about you tell your partner about it then?
Are you going to hurt them, you say? Well, damn right! How would you feel if
you caught your wife on her knees licking on another man’s genitals? Or if you
walked in on your boyfriend pinning another girl down? Am I too graphic? Not as
graphic as the indecent acts you have been performing against a person you
supposedly love more than anything or anyone else. Here’s an idea: Next time
you decide to cheat on your girl/guy, just pause for a moment and think about
her/him. Think about what you are doing to them. Think that you are
disappointing them but also your own self.
“My partner knows about it and
they are fine”. True. We do encounter the so-called “open relationships”
nowadays. A lot of couples might introduce a third (or fourth or fifth) person
in their relationship, claiming that it “spices” up their love life and
strengthens their relationship. Fine, I say. If you are open about it and you
agree with your partner, please go ahead. Enjoy! If it is, however, one-sided,
because you believe that is “healthy for your relationship", but your partner “would
not understand”, then please refer to the paragraph above. Besides, wouldn’t
you prefer to find a more suitable partner that would agree with you on such a
matter?
“It is harmless fun”. Harmless
fun with an STD on the side perhaps. Or an unwanted pregnancy. Condoms are only
99% safe. So on every 100th time you have sex, you can imagine
contracting a disease. Oral sex can transfer diseases too by the way, in case
you were unaware. Or imagine a little baby being conceived inside you, if you
are a woman. Good luck explaining to your husband the baby is not his. Oh wait,
you are not going to tell him, are you? You are going to let him think the baby
is his, correct? How about if I came over and swapped your baby with another
and told you, “this is your own, raise this one”. Will you be cool with it?
“It’s in our nature”. I swear to
Lucifer and all the other gods ever worshipped on this planet, if I hear one
more person say that, I will slap them! What fucking nature? Is it in our
genes? Have you managed to identify the “cheater” gene? Please, share the
results with the rest of the world if you have! First of all, not everyone is a
cheater. Yes, believe it or not, I know people who have been in long-term
relationships, some even in long-distance relationships, and they have been
more than faithful. Sure, temptation is always there. Sure, you see a hot
person walk down the street and acknowledge the fact that they are hot. Perhaps
you momentarily even fantasize about getting it on with them. Actually going
ahead with it, is not in your nature though! It’s a choice. So face up to your
choices and to their consequences. If you truly believe it is in “your nature”
and you cannot be monogamous but would like to fool around, then stay single
and fool around. It’s quite easy actually. Oh, but I know. You would still like
someone waiting for you at home, ‘cause you are too scared of being lonely,
right? Then fucking grow up and learn what “commitment” is all about!
“It was an accident”. An accident if
bumping onto someone. Or falling of your bike. Or tripping over the carpet.
Shoving an erect penis into a vagina (or mouth, or ass) is not an accident! Follow-up
excuses such as “I was drunk, I did not know what I was doing” will not work
either. If you drink that much, then you will probably end up vomiting or
passing out. Getting an erection at that stage and having sex, is actually
quite difficult if you are off your face. Unless you are actually semi-drunk
and are using the alcohol as a pathetic excuse for your own incompetency at
staying faithful or controlling your lusty desires.
“My relationship was bad anyway”. Then fucking end it! I must say that this is the only excuse I would
be able to tolerate as a third person (never if I was the one being cheated on),
as it clearly highlights the grey nature of human beings and their weakness at
confronting situations or people that are going wrong in their lives. In some
twisted, masochistic manner, we choose to fuck up things completely to ensure
an end to an undesirable situation, rather than face up to our responsibilities
and do the right thing. However, think how much less painful it would have been
for both of you, had you cleared the situation from the beginning and let both
your partner and yourself move on with your lives separately.
I could go on all night perhaps
with the number of excuses one could use to justify such a selfish act. Bottom
line is though, that you are simply a selfish, arrogant whore (term may be used
for both sexes). Going back to the “nature” argument, it is in our nature to be
actually like that. Whether you fight it though or not, proves if you are
mature enough and a better person. Violence is in our nature – that is more
than certain. And we have all thought of hitting someone at some point in our
lives. Maybe even killing someone – if I may say. Most of us hold back though,
because there are social constrains and laws against it. If there was a law
against “cheating”, I am sure the incidences would drop dramatically. There are
no laws though. And there are no major consequences. If they get caught, most
cheaters will either walk away or try to make their partner “understand”
instead of admitting to the error - both to their partner and within themselves.
But as long as the wife/husband is blissfully unaware, then who cares?
And here’s my closing remark: As
a third person, I would never be able to fully trust someone who is a cheater
(especially repeatedly), whether as a friend or a colleague. Cause if they are
doing that to the one person they supposedly “love” more than anyone else, then
I cannot imagine what sort of backstabbers they can be to everyone else around
them. Their cheating simply proves they cannot and will not ever put anyone
else above themselves and their own selfish desires.
