Today we tackle one of the most
controversial issues and long-debated taboos of sexuality. My blog is honest,
rude and straight-forward and pretty much attacks everyone, so brace yourselves
for the storm that is coming – no one is safe!
Allow me to begin this entry with
the bottom line (and then progress backwards), which is: Every person is
entitled to sleep with whoever and whatever number they wish, as long as is not
affecting or hurting other people. To make it even simpler: If a person favours
pussy over cock or vice versa, it’s none of your fucking business! And
preferring one over the other does not in any way make you any better than
others or special. You are still a horny asshole.
First of all, this whole issue of
“equal rights” should not even exist. It is illogical to think that some people
are less important than others because of their sex, sexuality, religion, race
or financial status. Murderers, rapists and child molesters are perhaps of less
value, but that is an issue for another blog entry. So, whether heterosexual,
homosexual or bisexual, all people are the same. It makes no difference to the
rest of the world who you or your neighbour sleeps with. In fact, straight
people should be happy about the existence of gay people, since competition
drops. And vice versa.
All people, despite of their
sexual preferences, are entitled to love, have sex and live with their partner
of choice. There should be no law against it. And there should be no law
forbidding them from getting married. There should also be no law forbidding
them to have children. Yes, things do become a little bit more complicated when
it comes to the creation of families and children. It does take a man and a
woman, a sperm and an egg, to procreate, whether we like it or not. Fucking
someone up the ass or licking a pussy will not lead to children popping out of
anyone’s vagina – or colon. But as we all know, there are always other options.
These are the same options that exist for heterosexual couples which are
infertile for example. Nonetheless, bringing children into this world is not
something to be treated lightly. Should gay people not be allowed to adopt? Of
course they should have the right to have children. In fact it should be as
difficult or as easy for them to have children, like any other heterosexual
couple. Laws should exist to protect children (born or unborn) from any harm
and prepare and screen potential parents whether they are straight, gay or
asexual.
All of the above will not of
course happen overnight. Society still has a long way to go. And homosexual
parents will still be the minority – whether we like it or not. It doesn’t mean
it’s wrong or bad. It just means that children will still ask their two fathers
“why don’t I have a mummy?” and the parents, as well as those around them,
should be prepared and ready to face these questions with mature and honest
answers. Also, society has a longer way to go when it comes to removing labels.
Watching “Spartacus”, one of the most legendary shows ever shown on TV and a good
reflection of history, I cannot help but notice that terms like “gay”,
“straight”, “lesbian” and so on, did not exist. There was the whole issue of
social class and status back then, but people were not distinguished on the
basis of their sexual appetite. Everyone was a lot more relaxed about it back
then and no one cared whether your preferences lay with the male or female sex
or both.
Which does bring me however to
the other side of the coin: Gay people have rights, like everyone else. But are
we perhaps kidding ourselves to some extend? Yes, African-Americans, women,
homosexuals, Jews have had bad treatment in the past. Past. We weren’t even
born when all the horrible stuff happened. Yes, discrimination from some people
still exists. And some groups are still battling to have what others are given
for granted. But gay people do not actually make this easier for them. In fact,
a lot of gay people want to be, want to feel and to be treated differently than
the rest of the world. They try to fit into stereotypes: let’s all worship
Madonna, wave rainbow flags and sleep around just because we can. Allow me to
elaborate.
Music, film, fashion, food,
sports and other tastes should not be a reflection of one’s sexual preferences.
The key is to be true to yourself. Of course, I am not saying to stop liking if
you like something which seems to fit a “cliché”. However, are some people
actually forcing themselves (perhaps subconsciously) to like certain things, to
adopt specific mannerisms or hang out in certain places with certain people,
only because they feel like they want to “fit in”? Humans always have
insecurities when it comes to finding their identity, so I cannot help but
notice that a lot of gay people seek to distinguish themselves from straight
people. Yet when a straight person makes a slight comment (even as a joke) that
might be interpreted as a discriminating one, then everyone throws a tantrum. A
bit hypocritical if you ask me.
Also, gay people are not helping
themselves by discriminating against straight people. A female friend of mine
was recently forbidden entrance to a gay club, since she was straight (and
according to the bouncer/detective she realised that due to the handbag the
girl was holding). Too many things are wrong with this scenario and I cannot
help but wonder that if the tables were reversed, i.e. if the lesbian bouncer
was not allowed entrance to a straight club, all hell would break lose
involving the media, government and protests all around the world. “Supporting”
responses of the nature “straight people are getting a taste of their own
medicine” and “straight people would just ruin the atmosphere in the club” are
null, childish, immature, narrow-minded and push people back to the same
discriminating habits. For that girl to have been there that night, means she
enjoys the club, its ambience, its cocktails and its music, and that she is
actually comfortable with having gay (or straight) people around her. Do gay
people really want to be pushing away even the ones that are on “their side”
(not that any sides should exist)?
This brings me to the flashy
lifestyle of a lot of gay people and the way they allow their sexual
preferences to dominate their lives. If you are in doubt of what I mean by
“flashy”, all you have to do is watch a gay parade. As I have said to a friend
once, is it really a protest for acquiring equal rights or is it an excuse for
people to be drinking in the streets, dancing semi-naked and making out with
each other? A lot of people are probably gasping at what I’m saying, thinking
that I am a homophobe and that I am being politically incorrect in not
supporting what a lot of gay people do. Don’t get me wrong; anyone (whether gay
or straight) can sleep with whoever they want and whatever number of people
they wish to – as long as they are not hurting themselves or others in the
process. And I will keep saying it. However, there are many ways that gay
people can raise awareness about gender and sexuality equalities. I fail to
understand how rubbing against each other and get sweaty in gay clubs only
(where straight people are clearly not allowed entrance) helps their cause.
I always use as a strong example
one of the funniest and most brilliant actors of our time: Neil Patrick Harris.
Neil is homosexual, he lives with his chosen life-partner and their two kids.
Neil is an activist when it comes to raising awareness and equal rights for gay
people. He talks about it, but it is not the only thing he can talk about. I
follow him on twitter and the man has his own character and likes, beyond the “guess
how many cocks I sucked this week?” He is an actor, a father, a partner, a
food-lover, a friend, a comedian, a film-lover; the list is endless. And I like
him and respect him for who he really is, despite his sexuality. It makes no
difference to anyone.
Are we, however, reaching an age
where society (in some aspects) gives more “rights” to some (those that are
minority or marginalised) than others? Is society trying too hard to compensate
for the lack of “equal rights” in some areas, by becoming too tolerant in some
other aspects? If a straight man sleeps around, then he is a player and an
arrogant chauvinistic pig who treats women like objects. If a straight woman
sleeps around, then she is a slut and has no self-respect for allowing her body
to be used like that. When gay people sleep around though, they are who they
are, we should respect that, not judge them and let them be. True story; think
about it.
In addition, I have heard of a
few occasions where a gay person has been rude or bad at their job, and when
someone confronted them their response was “are you talking to me this way
because I’m gay?” (And we all know the HR loves dramas like that!). No, you
moron, you are a stupid asshole, that’s why I’m talking to you like that! When
was the last time you heard someone say “Did you say that cause I’m straight?”
Yes, there are people who attack others because of their sexuality but bringing
it up in an unrelated topic means you either have insecurities or you are a
pathetic weasel who uses their sexuality as a defence for your incompetency at
other issues.
Last year, I came across this
horrendous website designed by a group of gay friends who were uploading
pictures of “hot” guys around London, along with a description of where they
were spotted in the underground and a rating. They were also encouraging people
to send in their own pictures of random “hot” strangers, which would be
uploaded on the website if the creators deemed worthy, so that people could
then proceed on the usual voting “for” or “against”. Am I one of the few to
find this website a little bit alarming? If it was designed by straight men who
were taking pictures and rating women, feministic groups would tear it apart
within hours. They would call the creators and those participating misogynistic
pigs, losers who can’t score women, pathetic, creepy, assholes who need to get
a life. They would claim that it objectifies women, whereas it is borderline
stalking. And I couldn’t agree more! Why is this not the case now? Because
women say “it’s about time men got a taste of their own medicine” and gay
people say “it’s all a bit of harmless fun” and everyone who doesn’t like it
can suck it up cause there are no laws against it! I’m sorry but all this neither
sound fair nor part of “equal rights” to me.
Our society still has a long way
to go to grow up. Perhaps we should return in a sense to ancient times and get
rid of some taboos and concerns surrounding genders and sexuality.
Unfortunately, thanks to nature, gay people have to struggle in some aspects.
It’s a fact that gay people cannot pro-create. We may have science advances now
and choices such as adoption, but these are only recently-developed opportunities. It is a
fact that all people should have equal rights. We need to be careful however in
over-compensating for the current lack of equal rights, since we are giving
some people certain power and strengths that we would deny others.
