Equal Rights Conundrum

Today we tackle one of the most controversial issues and long-debated taboos of sexuality. My blog is honest, rude and straight-forward and pretty much attacks everyone, so brace yourselves for the storm that is coming – no one is safe!

Allow me to begin this entry with the bottom line (and then progress backwards), which is: Every person is entitled to sleep with whoever and whatever number they wish, as long as is not affecting or hurting other people. To make it even simpler: If a person favours pussy over cock or vice versa, it’s none of your fucking business! And preferring one over the other does not in any way make you any better than others or special. You are still a horny asshole.

First of all, this whole issue of “equal rights” should not even exist. It is illogical to think that some people are less important than others because of their sex, sexuality, religion, race or financial status. Murderers, rapists and child molesters are perhaps of less value, but that is an issue for another blog entry. So, whether heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, all people are the same. It makes no difference to the rest of the world who you or your neighbour sleeps with. In fact, straight people should be happy about the existence of gay people, since competition drops. And vice versa.

All people, despite of their sexual preferences, are entitled to love, have sex and live with their partner of choice. There should be no law against it. And there should be no law forbidding them from getting married. There should also be no law forbidding them to have children. Yes, things do become a little bit more complicated when it comes to the creation of families and children. It does take a man and a woman, a sperm and an egg, to procreate, whether we like it or not. Fucking someone up the ass or licking a pussy will not lead to children popping out of anyone’s vagina – or colon. But as we all know, there are always other options. These are the same options that exist for heterosexual couples which are infertile for example. Nonetheless, bringing children into this world is not something to be treated lightly. Should gay people not be allowed to adopt? Of course they should have the right to have children. In fact it should be as difficult or as easy for them to have children, like any other heterosexual couple. Laws should exist to protect children (born or unborn) from any harm and prepare and screen potential parents whether they are straight, gay or asexual.

All of the above will not of course happen overnight. Society still has a long way to go. And homosexual parents will still be the minority – whether we like it or not. It doesn’t mean it’s wrong or bad. It just means that children will still ask their two fathers “why don’t I have a mummy?” and the parents, as well as those around them, should be prepared and ready to face these questions with mature and honest answers. Also, society has a longer way to go when it comes to removing labels. Watching “Spartacus”, one of the most legendary shows ever shown on TV and a good reflection of history, I cannot help but notice that terms like “gay”, “straight”, “lesbian” and so on, did not exist. There was the whole issue of social class and status back then, but people were not distinguished on the basis of their sexual appetite. Everyone was a lot more relaxed about it back then and no one cared whether your preferences lay with the male or female sex or both.

Which does bring me however to the other side of the coin: Gay people have rights, like everyone else. But are we perhaps kidding ourselves to some extend? Yes, African-Americans, women, homosexuals, Jews have had bad treatment in the past. Past. We weren’t even born when all the horrible stuff happened. Yes, discrimination from some people still exists. And some groups are still battling to have what others are given for granted. But gay people do not actually make this easier for them. In fact, a lot of gay people want to be, want to feel and to be treated differently than the rest of the world. They try to fit into stereotypes: let’s all worship Madonna, wave rainbow flags and sleep around just because we can. Allow me to elaborate.

Music, film, fashion, food, sports and other tastes should not be a reflection of one’s sexual preferences. The key is to be true to yourself. Of course, I am not saying to stop liking if you like something which seems to fit a “cliché”. However, are some people actually forcing themselves (perhaps subconsciously) to like certain things, to adopt specific mannerisms or hang out in certain places with certain people, only because they feel like they want to “fit in”? Humans always have insecurities when it comes to finding their identity, so I cannot help but notice that a lot of gay people seek to distinguish themselves from straight people. Yet when a straight person makes a slight comment (even as a joke) that might be interpreted as a discriminating one, then everyone throws a tantrum. A bit hypocritical if you ask me.

Also, gay people are not helping themselves by discriminating against straight people. A female friend of mine was recently forbidden entrance to a gay club, since she was straight (and according to the bouncer/detective she realised that due to the handbag the girl was holding). Too many things are wrong with this scenario and I cannot help but wonder that if the tables were reversed, i.e. if the lesbian bouncer was not allowed entrance to a straight club, all hell would break lose involving the media, government and protests all around the world. “Supporting” responses of the nature “straight people are getting a taste of their own medicine” and “straight people would just ruin the atmosphere in the club” are null, childish, immature, narrow-minded and push people back to the same discriminating habits. For that girl to have been there that night, means she enjoys the club, its ambience, its cocktails and its music, and that she is actually comfortable with having gay (or straight) people around her. Do gay people really want to be pushing away even the ones that are on “their side” (not that any sides should exist)?

This brings me to the flashy lifestyle of a lot of gay people and the way they allow their sexual preferences to dominate their lives. If you are in doubt of what I mean by “flashy”, all you have to do is watch a gay parade. As I have said to a friend once, is it really a protest for acquiring equal rights or is it an excuse for people to be drinking in the streets, dancing semi-naked and making out with each other? A lot of people are probably gasping at what I’m saying, thinking that I am a homophobe and that I am being politically incorrect in not supporting what a lot of gay people do. Don’t get me wrong; anyone (whether gay or straight) can sleep with whoever they want and whatever number of people they wish to – as long as they are not hurting themselves or others in the process. And I will keep saying it. However, there are many ways that gay people can raise awareness about gender and sexuality equalities. I fail to understand how rubbing against each other and get sweaty in gay clubs only (where straight people are clearly not allowed entrance) helps their cause.

I always use as a strong example one of the funniest and most brilliant actors of our time: Neil Patrick Harris. Neil is homosexual, he lives with his chosen life-partner and their two kids. Neil is an activist when it comes to raising awareness and equal rights for gay people. He talks about it, but it is not the only thing he can talk about. I follow him on twitter and the man has his own character and likes, beyond the “guess how many cocks I sucked this week?” He is an actor, a father, a partner, a food-lover, a friend, a comedian, a film-lover; the list is endless. And I like him and respect him for who he really is, despite his sexuality. It makes no difference to anyone.

Are we, however, reaching an age where society (in some aspects) gives more “rights” to some (those that are minority or marginalised) than others? Is society trying too hard to compensate for the lack of “equal rights” in some areas, by becoming too tolerant in some other aspects? If a straight man sleeps around, then he is a player and an arrogant chauvinistic pig who treats women like objects. If a straight woman sleeps around, then she is a slut and has no self-respect for allowing her body to be used like that. When gay people sleep around though, they are who they are, we should respect that, not judge them and let them be. True story; think about it.

In addition, I have heard of a few occasions where a gay person has been rude or bad at their job, and when someone confronted them their response was “are you talking to me this way because I’m gay?” (And we all know the HR loves dramas like that!). No, you moron, you are a stupid asshole, that’s why I’m talking to you like that! When was the last time you heard someone say “Did you say that cause I’m straight?” Yes, there are people who attack others because of their sexuality but bringing it up in an unrelated topic means you either have insecurities or you are a pathetic weasel who uses their sexuality as a defence for your incompetency at other issues.

Last year, I came across this horrendous website designed by a group of gay friends who were uploading pictures of “hot” guys around London, along with a description of where they were spotted in the underground and a rating. They were also encouraging people to send in their own pictures of random “hot” strangers, which would be uploaded on the website if the creators deemed worthy, so that people could then proceed on the usual voting “for” or “against”. Am I one of the few to find this website a little bit alarming? If it was designed by straight men who were taking pictures and rating women, feministic groups would tear it apart within hours. They would call the creators and those participating misogynistic pigs, losers who can’t score women, pathetic, creepy, assholes who need to get a life. They would claim that it objectifies women, whereas it is borderline stalking. And I couldn’t agree more! Why is this not the case now? Because women say “it’s about time men got a taste of their own medicine” and gay people say “it’s all a bit of harmless fun” and everyone who doesn’t like it can suck it up cause there are no laws against it! I’m sorry but all this neither sound fair nor part of “equal rights” to me.

Our society still has a long way to go to grow up. Perhaps we should return in a sense to ancient times and get rid of some taboos and concerns surrounding genders and sexuality. Unfortunately, thanks to nature, gay people have to struggle in some aspects. It’s a fact that gay people cannot pro-create. We may have science advances now and choices such as adoption, but these are only recently-developed opportunities. It is a fact that all people should have equal rights. We need to be careful however in over-compensating for the current lack of equal rights, since we are giving some people certain power and strengths that we would deny others.